*Due to the personal nature of therapy, I give my clients the choice to use their full name, first name, pseudonym or initials for their testimonials or supply a photograph. The words below are their own, edited for spelling errors only.
“I was tired of living a life where I was basically just existing.”
I was very depressed. I felt trapped in my body, trapped in my mind, and trapped in my life. I knew I needed to do something to improve but I felt so stuck that I couldn’t see a way out.
I was tired of living a life where I was basically “just existing”. A friend told me about Kerry and how she had really changed her life. I felt like if she helped my friend so much that maybe there was hope for me.
I was honestly very nervous going into the first session. I was anxious speaking to someone I hadn’t met about things that were so personal. That feeling went away within minutes though as Kerry put me completely at ease. She has a way of making you feel comfortable and it was clear she understood me and would never judge.
By the end of my first session, I could see a “light” that I hadn’t seen in years if I even ever had seen it. Kerry made me believe that there was a plan for me and one that would make my situation improve. She believed in me even when I couldn’t possibly believe in myself.
While I hoped for an improvement in my life, I never really believed it could happen. After my first session, I was able to see changes. Seeing changes so early on gave me such confidence that not only “could” I change but that I “would” change.
I believe in myself. I know that “I am enough right now”. I have a renewed confidence and know that no matter what happens in my life, I can handle it, move through it, and come out stronger than before.
I have worked with other therapists for over 15 years. While I have always gained knowledge from these providers, I was never given the tools to implement the knowledge. Kerry not only gave me the knowledge that I needed to improve my life but gave me the tools and confidence to implement the knowledge to make changes. MB
“We had given up and didn’t know what else to say to each other.”
I was scared that my husband W and I were going to become one of the couples who love each other a lot but could not stay married because we grew apart or outside forces were stronger that we were. We were just existing together, and weren’t even fighting or arguing anymore, that was the worst part. We had given up and didn’t know what else to say to each other.
From a search of the word “Autoimmune” yours was one of the pages I was suggested and I followed you. I was bed bound and dealing with the aftermath of a trauma and the horrible strain between W and I. We had been talking about going back to my therapist who I hadn’t seen in 2 years, but hadn’t made the appointment. I would see your Facebook posts, not really knowing who exactly you were or your story, and I was constantly struck by how EXACTLY you mirrored my own feelings in your posts.
I would read them out loud to W and say “Its like I could have written it!” So I got curious and started looking into who you were and your page. I was lead to your website and to my shock, I saw that you are a therapist specialising in both chronic illness AND toxic parents, the two subjects we were struggling with the most. Then, unbelievably, I see you are available to work online! I was barely able to leave the house so this was amazing. I shared this info with W and we booked our discovery session.
I was traumatised by my past experiences. I did NOT want to go back into therapy! I had been in therapy for 2 decades and traumatised by doctors and appointments and it was all coming in on me the week of our discovery session. These feelings set off my adrenals and by the time of our actual discovery session I had to let W handle it, I couldn’t get out of bed and I had such bad anxiety I wanted to throw up. I do remember tiptoeing to the door very tensely and quietly and listening to hear what you would sound like when W was talking to you in the basement about my health situation and you had the sweetest, kindest voice. We both decided to work with you and hope for the best.
What I love about you Kerry is I felt heard. I felt respected and supported. I transitioned over the first 2-3 hypnotherapy sessions from thinking way too much and trying to figure out the right answer to questions to relaxing and letting my mind answer for me instead of my brain and being fascinated by what came out of my mind all on its own. I think I began to feel the power of my subconscious mind and its affect on my physical body. I began to see that W and I were very traumatised by all we went through and we were both hurting a lot but it was the two of us against the problem not the two of us against each other.
I notice that I am rarely ever feeling depressed anymore. There is some “physical” anxiety that goes along with where I am at with illness but not a lot of mental anxiety, or racing thoughts or obsessing thoughts. I see myself challenging my thoughts all the time and actively changing them to be healthier and realistic which helps me to handle stress in a much better way. I notice my energy levels are much higher than when we began and I am functioning with a lot more ability than before. I feel myself moving away from post traumatic thinking and actions and being more present in the now in my life.
Your understanding of what I live with as far as chronic illness goes is the biggest part I never have received from any other therapist. It makes it so much simpler to explain myself and my feelings to someone who has lived what I live and can empathise with the unique aspects and requirements of my life with chronic illness.
The usual stressful battle with professionals to try and get them to understand where I am coming from was not there. That meant there is so much more time for the real work that needs to be done and not endless explanations that wont be heard or understood anyway.
My family has noticed so many changes in me both mentally and physically. W and I are both constantly shocked at how much our lives have changed after fully committing to this process with our whole minds and bodies. Thank you Kerry. Gianna.
“The extreme anxiety the stress was causing me had become unmanageable and I did not like the person it made me feel I had become.”
I was feeling very stressed out. Feeling overwhelmed and wanting to escape my relationship because I didn’t know how to “fix” our problem.
The extreme anxiety the stress was causing me had become unmanageable and I did not like the person it made me feel I had become.
Going in, I felt a bit nervous but hoped that you could help me with my problems. After that first session, I felt that I had regained a peaceful power and relinquished the outside stressors with the skills you gave me.
My partner has noticed the difference in me and how I better manage the stress that others try to bring into our life.
I now feel more confident in my ability to realise what is out of my control, and just let it go rather than worrying/stressing/obsessing over it.
I’m more accepting of my anxiety quirks, and am allowing them to just be what they are and not freak out over my OCD-ish antics.
The vaginal/physical pain and issues that were occurring have not occurred once since we did the hypnosis that addressed my past traumas!
I really did not expect to have physical pain/irritation in my body go away from a mental/emotional therapy!
Instead of trying to medicate the problem away or shrug issues off (like the traditional therapist/counsellor/psychiatrists I’ve encountered in the past) you helped me get to the very roots of my anxieties, fears and PTSD.
I do not have that last bit of yearning to be how I used to be, because the future has much more beautiful things in store, and my past is what built me to what I am today.
Thank you for everything Kerry, I truly appreciate all you have done to help me reduce my stress and anxiety and get to the root of everything! Samantha
“I felt insecure, small and the fear of when a flare would come back and how I would have to deal with it was hanging as a heavy dark cloud above my head.”
I realised I wasn’t my normal self. I felt insecure, small and the fear of when a flare would come back and how I would have to deal with it was hanging as a heavy dark cloud above my head.
I was feeling very lonely after the experience and realisation that no-one, not even my (ex) partner understood my illness. Since I grew up with the disease I assumed family members understood it all very well. I came to realise (after 21 years!) they will never.
When I saw/read the website and read the e-book I found much recognition. While reading, I also felt a honest and sincere empathy which I realised I needed from someone who knows how it is to live with chronic illness.
Before the first session I felt somewhat nervous. Though beforehand I told myself to let it all go and just listen since I normally like to ‘control’ things. That helped. Since I obviously don’t’ have much experience with therapy it was slightly uncomfortable that it was all about me since the 1st minute. It is very logical in a way but it also seemed a bit against the nature of my conversations. Probably because I normally don’t have therapeutic conversations with someone.
I felt already a lot calmer after the first session. Maybe also because I realised I didn’t have to give all my energy in explaining it all to someone who understands what a burden chronic illness can be. The information and spot on explanation about how my mind works made me very curious about what was coming in next sessions.
My confidence in myself slowly came back during the sessions. The biggest change is that I feel as if I came back to being my old normal self. I am relaxed, much more confident, worry less and care much less about what others think. I think more positive and get less affected by other people’s negative talk. I can dance in the rain again!
I came to realise over the sessions that there were quite a few issues to cover. I am very happy you have helped me all this much!
The comfort of talking to someone who knows, who understands was a completely new experience for me which helped me a lot. The amount of weight that could get off my shoulders I did not expect. At the stage where I was (before the sessions) I think I was searching for understanding and recognition from people close to me. I wasn’t getting the type of understanding or recognition I was looking for. I now understand why.
I got from you an active listening ear, empathy, explanation and direct action which I really liked. I worked with a therapist once before in which I vaguely remember I had to look in the weeks ahead for how things would develop over time. And the most important things he said were only said in 5 minutes of the whole hour.
With your direct action and explanation as to why you do what you do in the session I can reflect myself after the session, I started to write things down right after and automatically I thought about all this the days after the session. Even if I wanted to or not. I could note myself I was thinking about things we talked about or what it did to me almost every day until the session came along.
And the whole hour you said important things and things that just made sense and were very interesting to listen to. It was not just 5 minutes of valuable information. Sometimes I wish I could listen back to it. Thank you Kerry. Marlies.
“I knew I needed to get help or I would be stuck in that feeling of helplessness.”
Before I started working with you, I had the feeling that my life was getting smaller and smaller. I felt like I wasn’t capable of so many things.
This made it feel like I wasn’t capable of getting a different job in order to create a better situation for myself.
I felt very bad about my relationship with my husband. I could see what a difficult time he was having with my illness and the restrictions I had.
I felt like I had no relationship at all with the rest of my family even though I see them regularly. I had a little bit of hope that I could improve, but I couldn’t actually imagine how. I knew I needed help, because I couldn’t figure out how to help myself.
I could see that the job I was in was not going to be sustainable for my health, but I didn’t know what else I could do. When I brought up my concerns about this and other things about my health with my husband, it resulted in fighting.
I knew I needed to get help or I would be stuck in that feeling of helplessness.
Before the Discovery Session I felt very nervous. I feel more comfortable in person than over the internet, so I felt nervous about that. I also had a fear that I might not be able to get my point across accurately or be understood.
After our first session, I felt so comfortable talking to you and immediately felt that you got me.
You understood exactly what I was going through with chronic illness, and you were able to express back to me exactly what I was feeling with my family.
My husband said that it seems like I have more energy, and that I laugh more.
The biggest change I have seen in myself is an improvement in confidence. I have more confidence in my abilities to do anything I want to do, including starting a new job. I have seen my social anxiety decrease dramatically.
It’s still present, but not paralysing like it was before. I have also noticed a big change in my relationships with friends and family. They may not notice a difference, but because of the changes in me, I am able to connect with them in a more meaningful way and feel better about the interactions we have.
I didn’t expect the work with my subconscious to be so helpful. I am amazed at the insights and improvements I have gained through hypnosis.With this understanding I am able to have more compassion for myself and love myself better.
Through working with you I felt understood in a way I never have before with another therapist.
I gained a lot of very practical and effective tools that I use in daily life. I also gained a much deeper understanding of my thought patterns and how my subconscious works. With this understanding I am able to have more compassion for myself and love myself better. Thank you Kerry. Kathy.
“I was getting to the point where I thought if I were to not get help in managing my mental health I would miss out on all the opportunities life has to offer.”
Before attending your program, I felt in a constant state of fear and was petrified of having to face my future with the emotions and physical symptoms that anxiety brought along with it. The shame, guilt and sadness I felt dealing with anxiety severely impacted my self esteem and I felt such a loss of self.
The trigger for me to start working with you was that I was getting to the point where I thought if I were to not get help in managing my mental health I would miss out on all the opportunities life has to offer and I would not be pushing myself to my greatest potential.
Going into our first session I felt very anxious to express my fears and thoughts but I was also very determined to challenge my thought processes and get my life back.
By the end of our first session I was able to tune into my inner dialogue and manage to catch myself before slipping into a repetitive cycle of rumination and story telling like I had once done. I felt a sense of understanding and acceptance over my past that I had once felt so ashamed and embarrassed over.
The biggest changes I have noticed within myself is I am no longer getting trapped in my own thoughts or being affected by the nature of my thoughts and suffering the physical and emotional symptoms that came along with them. This has then impacted my self esteem and confidence and allowed me to enter social settings I once would dread for days beforehand.
I feel a lot more positive energy through my body which has also inspired me to look after myself physically. I now look forward to tackling my goals and new challenges in life knowing I have the skills to manage my anxiety.
I enjoyed every minute of my sessions and wouldn’t change anything. I loved that you were very clear spoken and gave me an insight into how the conscious and sub conscious mind works.
I found it empowering to talk to another female and gain an insight from a women’s perspective on topics like self esteem, relationships & families that I did not get with prior therapists.
I did not expect to feel so different in such a short amount of time and I am forever grateful that you have given me the skills I was after to help me on my journey of life.
My therapists in the past only gave me a sense of reassurance that I was okay. Your program has given me an understanding on my personality type, my past experiences with anxiety and thinking patterns, why it has occurred and most importantly a clear structure I can now follow to help manage my anxiety.
You have helped me feel at peace with my past, confident in the present and resilient for my future! Thank you Kerry! Summer Johnston.
I was anxious and tired and wanted to find a way to move forward in life.
I was encouraged to contact you by my fiancé who was concerned about the baggage I was carrying due to many past traumas. I was anxious and tired and wanted to find a way to move forward in life.
The trigger to reach out to you was my inability to fall back to sleep once awake and my increasing dependence on alcohol to help me sleep.
Going into the first session, I was comfortable and reasonably relaxed as I had experienced hypnotherapy and counselling before.
By the end of the first session I was able to understand that the stories in my head were causing me anxiety and that I could trust that I could sleep without any substances to assist me.
My fiancé has noticed a huge change in me and I, myself am always aware of the strategies we covered in our sessions.
The biggest change I see in myself is my ability to sleep and to go back to sleep after I wake. Also I am clearer about viewing other people’s actions and words as stories in their head rather than taking things personally. I am reviewing who I choose to be friends with and am less concerned and annoyed with people who let me down.
I didn’t expect to overcome my challenges with sleeping so quickly and some of the lightbulb moments took me completely by surprise!
Kerry is such a warm, honest and nurturing person who is very skilled at cutting to the chase in the most gentle way. I found her style and techniques very refreshing and effective! I haven’t stopped praising her to anyone that will listen and can’t recommend her highly enough! Mary.